Conscious Style with Capsule Collection

So, one of the things that I’ve been trying to be better with is clothes.

You’ve seen on here before that I’ve purged my closet many times, and have been trying to utilize basic pieces to build a functional wardrobe that will make me look put together, while also, streamlining my “get ready process”.

I should preface this with the fact that my “get ready process” usually is:

Pick top, pick bottoms, cross fingers and hope that it doesn’t look too silly.

This year, I’ve been trying to focus on quality of items, instead of buying for “one time wear”. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older, maybe it’s because I’m actually comfortable in my skin for the first time in my life, but the feeling of a well made item really just makes me smile. It also means I can rely on that pair of jeans, t shirt, sweater for almost anything.

So – starting tomorrow I’m challenging myself to stick to a Capsule Collection for two weeks.

What’s a capsule collection? It’s about 8-12 pieces of clothing that you mix and match to create your outfits. They can be dressed up and down, and paired with each other for maximum  creativity and options.

Kate from Sloane & Ivy came over to help me build a solid transitional collection based on pieces that I already had, and a few new pieces from the store.

The best way to describe how I’m feeling right now, is both excited AND nervous. Starting tomorrow, I won’t be pulling anything from my closet for the next two weeks – which in theory shouldn’t make me nervous, because most of what is in this pile, I typically wear anyways. But, maybe it’s the idea that I CAN’T that has me feeling butterflies.

So… to see the pieces that I’m going to be wearing, watch this short video!

You’ll be able to tune into everything I’m wearing EVERY DAY on my Instagram Stories – I’ll be highlighting them and talking about how I decided to pair them.

And before we kick this off, I have to say this.

Yes, this is primarily a fitness/wellness page – but part of wellness is really learning to love yourself. I NEVER was into fashion, mainly because I was so self conscious that I didn’t look like people in the magazines. My legs were big, my butt was big, my hair wasn’t straight. Somewhere along the line, I decided that since I didn’t look like people in magazines, that I didn’t really need to care about how I dressed, because I didn’t “look good”. That thought process CHANGES when we start to FEEL good. My legs and butt are STRONG, and I love how my hair looks when it’s flying wild at the beach. I reclaimed MY power over how I feel, and now, I’m wading through this new world – how to style and dress my body in the way that works best for me.

I’m lucky enough to have stumbled upon Kate’s instagram and have found someone who is a) willing to take a style novice under her wing b) supportive in trying to help explore someone’s personal style. She doesn’t force a look on anyone, and she doesn’t try to fit a square peg in a round hole. And that’s not something I’m just saying because I’m a Sloane & Ivy ambassador. The moment I first walked into her store, she wanted to know about ME. What I do, where I go, what my go to pieces are – and from there, she created outfits that have the ability to make me look good and make me FEEL like I can take over the world.

So, I hope you enjoy watching these next two weeks go by! Plus, if you see any pieces you like use AMANDA15 to get 15% off your next Sloane & Ivy purchase!

My Thoughts On The Juice Cleanse

So, a few weeks ago I did a juice cleanse.

A bunch of my clients & fellow instructors had talked about having done them before, so I figured, I would give anything a shot once. I ordered the cleanse, and it came fully frozen. As I started unpacking this giant cooler box, a big wave of doubt hit me.

Will I actually be able to do this?

Blake was gone on a work trip to Europe, so I knew I wouldn’t have much temptation to eat at home. Admittedly, since it was just me, and I was going to be drinking my juice, I didn’t even go grocery shopping – just to make sure I wouldn’t give into temptation.

The idea? Drink six juices a day, for three days, and be cleansed.

I did it. I posted on my story all day every day. I didn’t cheat. I basically lived in the bathroom. I wasn’t hungry. I wasn’t awake. I just… was.

SO – here’s the thing.

I don’t drink a lot of juice in general. They are really sweet for me, and I just would rather drink either water or a smoothie. So, maybe I was set up to hate it from the get go, because I hate the feeling of having to brush my teeth EVERY other hour. Seriously, the inside of my mouth felt like I had ate a bag of sour patch kids without ANY of the satisfaction of eating them.

Why?

There was SO MUCH SUGAR in each of these juices. Virtually every juice had some sort of natural sugar/sweetener  added to it – agave, inulin – pushing the sugar content of some of these juices to almost 50 grams (you are supposed to drink the WHOLE bottle, even though it’s labeled as 2 servings). To give you an idea of how much sugar that is, a can of Coke has 39 grams. And we all know that Coke is the standard for “this is not a healthy thing”.

But it’s not just about the sugar.

It’s about the IDEA that we should not eat to “cleanse” ourselves. That we should chug juice and poop out 10 lbs to feel better about ourselves.

Sure, I dropped 8 lbs in 3 days.

THAT’S NOT SUSTAINABLE. THAT’S NOT HEALTHY.

Food is a need. Not a want. When you think about food as fuel, you eat according to what your body needs. Craving something salty? Maybe your sodium level is low. Can’t get the hankering for a huge salad out of your mind? Might need to up your fiber and iron levels. Your body is always talking to you – but a lot of the time, we choose to ignore it in favor of quick fixes.

We already have warped ideas about food and bodies – so why do we keep feeding into this?! I’m glad I did it. I’m glad I got to feel how tired my body felt without food. I’m glad I got to see how my skin broke out because of sugar. I’m HAPPY that I learned to appreciate what food can DO for me. I don’t need a juice cleanse to feel comfortable in my body.

Why?

Because, I think I actually like my body.

All I need to feel like a badass in my body is good workout, my friends and family, and maybe a glass of wine.

So, I guess in a weird way, I want to thank the juice cleanse for showing me that I don’t need to drink weird concoctions and deprive myself to feel my best.

I just need a little sweat and love.

 

 

 

It’s Not Greedy To Ask For What You’re Worth, Kevin

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When I work from home, I love keeping the TODAY show in the background to hear about what is going on in the world.

Something different happened at 9AM though, when it switched to the Megyn Kelly show. Typically I’m typing away on email, getting things done, but something piqued my interest (and no, it wasn’t her “racing” Danica Patrick on a go kart).

Kevin O’Leary started talking about negotiations at work, and I was like “oh this is interesting, I teach negotiations, so I wonder if I can learn anything.”

The first thing out of his mouth was:

“Don’t be greedy.”

So, he now had my full attention.

I was enraged.

What came out of his mouth next shocked me even more.

“You need to know what everyone around you is getting paid. If everyone is getting paid 70K, and you are getting paid 50K, you should be ok with 65K, because you’ll know you can be happy with it.”

Slow. The. Fuck. Down.

If I know that someone else, doing the SAME job as me, with the SAME success as me, WHY should I feel guilty asking for equal pay?

Easy – I shouldn’t.

Neither should you.

In our Ladies Get Paid Negotiation Workshops – we talk a LOT about the conditioned “ick” factor that women have around asking for things for themselves. We’ve been conditioned, not to take a compliment, not to ask for more than we receive, and we’ve been told not to “brag” since bragging is “not lady like”.

Kevin O’Leary’s quip on being “greedy” feeds RIGHT into that.

No, it’s NOT greedy to ask for your value – it’s called being competitive in the market place. If you underprice yourself, you underprice your value.

You would think Kevin would know that, being a Shark on Shark Tank and all.

You are in the business of you, and when you work for a company, your business and that business work in tandem to successfully fulfill both YOUR goals and the BUSINESSES goals. When the balance is there, you can build your career at that company, and your company is successful. It’s a symbiotic relationship.

So, Kevin. I’m glad you said that on TV, and while you may have thought nothing of it, you made it NECESSARY for me to speak out. Something, that I probably wouldn’t have done a couple months ago.

You have to advocate for yourself. You have to research. You need to know what the market value is for your skills. These are all things that you can learn. But the most important part is being able to stand up for yourself, when someone like Kevin walks in.

When someone like him, who has made his millions by “being greedy”, tells you “don’t be greedy.”

Let me tell you. Don’t you DARE undervalue yourself, because of a comment that someone says.

Don’t you DARE let your mind convince you that you should be OK with making less money than your peers, for WHATEVER reason.

Don’t let guys like Kevin dictate your worth any longer.

You are the only one that really knows your worth. You are the only one that can truly advocate for yourself – no one else can do it for you.

So, Kevin, I’m glad you got your air time and your stacks of cash waiting for you at home. One of your most famous quotes is “Assholes get rich because they’re not afraid to ask for what they want.”

So readers, if you are still with me, don’t let the assholes convince you NOT to ask for your worth.  Don’t leave any money on the table, because you are “afraid” of being perceived as “greedy.”

You. Are. Worth. It.

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